4.Iwanttoaskifthisunderstandingiscorrect:aftertheparentsdivorced,thefatherwholikestoclientmostchoseherelderbrother.Theclientisonly7yearsoldandcanonlypassivelyacceptthischoice.However,theclientsubconsciouslyhatedherfather.Therefore,theincidentofclosingthedoorandclosingthefiregaveherareasonableexcusetobreakofftherelationshipwithherfather.However,becauseofherrefusingattitude,shelostherfather'sloveevenmore,makingherselfmorepainful?Isthiskindofrelationshipbehaviorpatternalwaysrepeatedinclient’sfuturerelationships?Ithinkyouareright.Thepatientlostalotwhenshegaveupherfatherandviceversa.Butyouareright,shewasasmallchildanditwasnotinherdecision,withwhomshewantedtostay.ButIthinkshehadnorealsuccessfulseparationfromherfather,somanyaspectsoftherelationshiptotheex-bossshowsometracesofanoedipalthrive.Shewanttogetmorefromtheex-bossbecauseshehaddeepunconsciouslongingforthefather.Sheseemsnotbeable

forarealsatisfyingdailyandsexualrelationshiptoaman.Insomekindsheisidentifiedwiththefather(thiscouldalsobetherootforherlesbianinclination.我认为你是对的。当病人放弃父亲时，她损失了很多，反之亦然。但你是对的，她是一个小孩子，她想和谁呆在一起并不是她自己能决定的。但我认为她与父亲并没有真正成功的分离，所以她与前老板的关系的许多方面都显示出一些俄狄浦斯情结的痕迹。她想从前老板那里得到更多，因为她对父亲有着深深的无意识的渴望。她似乎无法与一个男人建立真正令人满意的日常和性关系。在某种程度上，她是认同父亲的（这也可能是她女同性恋倾向的根源。6.Howdoyouunderstandthetwodifferentreactionsthatclientsbreakofftheirrelationshipwithherparentsaftersheisdisappointed,butgetentangledwithherboyfriend/girlfriendandcan'tleave?Firstshewasmoreengagedwithherfather,buthedisappointedherveryhard,whenhetooktheson(brotherofthePatient)Thenshewasintherelationshipwiththemotherbuttheex-bossfeltthatthemotherperhapscouldprotectherfromtheabusingdestroyingrelationshipwiththeboss.Becausetherelationshiptomotherneverwasverywarmandsincereshefollowedtherecommandationsofthebossandseparatedwithmother.

起初，她与父亲更亲密，但当父亲带走儿子（病人的哥哥）时，父亲让她非常失望。然后，她与母亲的关系，但前老板觉得母亲也许可以保护她免受于老板的虐待和破坏。因为和母亲的关系从来都不是很温暖和真诚的，她听从了老板的建议，和母亲分开了。Comments1.Theclientcannotdecide,sheaskedthecounselor;Thecounselorcan'tdecide,sheaskstheteacher.2.Theclientseemedtocoverupalotofthingsandwasunwillingtofacethem.Thecounselorisnotbraveenoughtosayitoutloud.Shejustlookedatthepotanddarednotopenthelid,afraidoflosingtheclientwhenitwasopened.Butitseemsthatshemaylosetheclientifshedoesn'trevealthem.Whatdoesthecounselorthink:doestheclientwanttofindanothercover(lid)orsomeonehelpinghertoremovethecover?3.Thisisasadstory.Theclientislikeaboatintherough

sea.Shecan'tdecideherowndirectionandneedssomeonetohelpherdecide.Itseemsthatactivelyendingisadisaster,whilebeingabandonedatanytimemaybeanormalsituation.Aslongassomeoneiswillingtobewithher,shewilltakeit,shehasnochoice.4.Thecounseloralwaysreportsthecaseinthethirdperson.‘Thecounselorbelievesthat…..’Whentheinterpretertranslated,itwasinthefirstperson‘I......’Thethirdpersonmademefeelisolatedandkeptadistance.Idon'tknowwhethertheclientalsofeltlikeshecouldnotgetcloseandwantedtogetclose.6.Theclientkeptaskingthecounselorwhethersheshoulddothisorthat.Thepicturethatemergedwasthattheseven-year-oldgirlstandingoutsideofacloseddoor,eagerforsomeonetoopenthedoorandcareforher,butwhatshecouldsaywasthatshewasworriedaboutthefireonthegasstove.Thankyouverymuchfortheseinterestingcomments.Ialsothinkthatthepatientisnotanadultperson非常感谢这些有趣的评论。我也认为患者不是（像）个成年人。